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Some of us love bondage, and a question escorts get asked a lot is “can I tie you up before we have sex?” or indeed “can you tie me up then have sex?”.

Some escorts do indeed allow this, in fact they very much enjoy it, it all depends on their personal preference and what sexual services they offer.

Like we always say it’s always worth reading a girl’s description on their website, or better yet giving them/their agency a call to find out if specific girls will allow it.

They can then provide you find you a perfect, submissive girls who will allow you to tie them up before or during sex.

Do keep in mind that some escorts do not offer this service, certainly first time, mainly for safety and security reasons and also more often then now as they do not enjoy it. If they do offer it and you become a regular client, and all parties feel safe and comfortable, then go for it!

If you hired an escort without confirming that they offer this BDSM service and request that you tie them up or that you want to be tied up they would probably leave immediately and not see you again.

If you do want an escort to do BDSM with, you’ll have to look for an escort or agency who specialises in that, and as mentioned it may take some relationship building for the escort to feel safe with you.

Once this level of trust and comfort has been built up and all concerned feel that the time is right, then you can indulge your desires, it may be the case that you both have to meet at least 2 or 3 times and have “regular” sex, before introducing the ropes and restraints, but of course if neither of you do feel comfortable this still may not happen, however you may still wish to keep using the services of that particular escort as the sex is great, while you search for another escort to try again with, like with anything sexual, never ever force the issue. Not only will the escort leave and ban you, but if you come on too strong then the local authorities will more the likely get involced.

When choosing an escort do you hire from an escort agency? Or opt for an individual escort?

Usually people do hire escorts from actual agencies, but are there any benefits to this?

Well escort agencies specialise in the business, which has its advantages.

Agencies will screen escorts for quality and health, and not all of them will be accepted, and because of this you can be pretty sure you will have a good and safe experience with your escort.

Escort agencies do vary in cost, from more ‘budget’ options to more premium.

They will usually have full information on their websites and you should be able to find any answers to your questions there, or by calling the agency up.

Sometimes when contacting an escort agency either by phone or through their website, you will be asked several questions which determine your personality and requirements. This does actually also serve as a background check and verifies you.

High end escort agencies will use the answers you gave to choose a suitable escort for you, which in turn will lead to a better experience all round.

Usually escorts that work with agencies are very professional and will normally have been briefed on the answers you gave, so they can mentally prepare themselves and understand your needs and requirements, all of which again lead up to a better time for you.

Often clients, when they find a good agency that fulfills their needs, will stick with the same agency, becoming a ‘regular’.

You should always let the agency know your requirements, is there anything in particular you want your escort to wear? And tell them any fetishes or kinks, again this is all so they can match you with a perfect escort that they have available, leading to a more fun encounter.

Of course there are some bad escort agencies, but they are few and far between, a reputable one will always offer you the best possible service, attempting to accomodate your requirements and always setup a booking with an escort you have agreed on.

However some escorts opt to work without an agency, and they don’t necessarily do this because they haven’t been accepted by the agency, or passed its screening test.

They simply do not want to share their money with the agency.

Usually escorts start their careers working with an agency and then move on to work on their own, utilising the internet and various sex services websites to build up their client base.

Their is no real difference in booking through an agency or choosing an escort that works on their own, as always make sure you do some research in to both before making your choice, and more importanly have fun!

Some escorts we have spoken to would say a good 80% of them had wives at home.

Some were bored with their sex life, some wouldn’t know how to ask their wife for what they were into, some had wives that wouldn’t have sex with them and some of them were very happily married, having regular sex

Using an escort can be a thrilling experience. You can pretty much have your pick of the girls and you could have sex with a girl that in reality, you may not have had the opportunity to. It’s living the dream and the fantasy.

It’s also easy for this thrill to become an addiction, so what happens if you do become addicted to having sex with an escort whilst you are in a relationship?

With an escort, you will find no judgement, it’s quick and easy and you may even find that they are able to offer you some gentle therapy and counselling.

You throw in the fact that you are pretty much guaranteed an orgasm, including sex that is primarily about your pleasure and whatever turns you on, using escorts can more often then not be an amazing situation and that’s why men keep coming back.

As with any addiction, whether it be to sex, gambling, drugs etc, you can’t just go cold turkey.

Well, you can, but it usually ends badly. You need to wean yourself off what your addiction is and find out the reasons behind it.

Try and keep a small log of when you find yourself having the compulsion to visit an escort.

This doesn’t have to include any incriminating words, it could be as simple as a piece of paper or a note in your phone with some form of code that you understand.

See what your triggers are. Do you want to use the services of an escort when you have lots of money in your pocket? Ok that’s a trigger.

When you are having a stressful day at work? Ok that’s another trigger.

When it’s a Wednesday as you always see that same girl at the same time on a Wednesday? Also a trigger!

Find out when you are most likely to get that urge and record it somewhere private.

Find out what is happening in your life and when and you can find a way to work around that.

If you using an escort once a week, how about try and go just once every 2 weeks.

If you seeing an escort when you’ve had a bad day at work, how about you reward yourself with another type of treat that doesn’t involve sex, maybe going to see a movie or having a drink after work.

Slowly replace your trigger points with additional activities and gradually fade out your use of sex workers.

If you think you are struggling with an addiction to sex, speak to a doctor or therapist.

Sex additions is very common and it is nothing to be ashamed of what so ever.